2. Schedule wedding planning dates
My fiancé and I were often finding ourselves having important wedding planning discussions sporadically throughout the week. With both of us working demanding, full time jobs, we felt compelled to spend every ounce of free time planning for our wedding. There always seems to be something to do related to our wedding, so it was easy to have this be the constant topic of conversation or activity that filled up our time away from work. Realizing that our approach was somewhat inefficient, we decided to start scheduling specific blocks of time for us to focus on wedding planning (aka wedding planning dates!). For example, during the week, instead of talking every evening after work about the wedding until we go to bed, we schedule 1-2 weeknights where we discuss and set aside specific time, say an hour or hour and a half. Same goes for the weekends, we commit to spending 2-3 hours on a Saturday or Sunday to talk wedding.
Utilizing our to do list mentioned above and prioritizing what we want to accomplish during our date helps keep us on track. You can also make these wedding dates fun too so it’s not all business! We love to cozy up with a glass of wine if we are having evening date or whip up a weekend breakfast or brunch before we settled into our deep wedding discussion. Of course, we don’t always stick to the scheduled dates to a tee, and impromptu wedding planning discussions come up, but setting aside specific time to really accomplish to do’s that will help move our planning process forward has been really helpful!
3. Self care
I love the mantra, “you can’t take care of others if you can’t take care of yourself." I am a self-admitted people pleaser and often prioritize the needs of others ahead of my own. While always with good intention, operating this way can backfire if you aren’t mindful of your own needs! Wedding planning requires a lot of decision making and if I am in a state of chaos internally I know I am setting myself up for irrational or impulsive decisions. It is not a pleasant experience to turn something so fun and exciting as wedding planning into stressful or argumentative conversation, which unfortunately can happen if you are running out of steam. Incorporating self care is a value I live by and I believe it is especially important during the wedding planning process because it can be such an overwhelming experience. I carve out time for myself to decompress and take my mind off the wedding so I can rest, recharge, and be ready to make clear headed decisions in line with what we really want for our special day. For me self care can look like a yoga classes, getting a massage, curling up with a good book, candlelight bubble bath – the options are endless!