by Alyssa Jackson
Having recently been married in Northern Michigan, my husband and I have done a lot of reflecting on our magical day. A wedding is such a monumental occasion and there are so many details, emotions, and experiences that make up the celebration. As a newly married couple, we thought it would helpful to share a few key reflections that can hopefully help you prepare for your special day.
The day itself moves incredibly fast
This was something we had been warned about by family and friends leading up to our wedding. We didn’t really think too much of it until it happened to us. Your day is so wonderfully filled with a timeline of events but it does move quickly! This made it important for us to really be present in each moment and take it all in. We received the advice to take a moment to step back at your reception with your husband/wife and just observe what is going on around you – take it all in for a moment together!
Know that although the day itself may move quickly, the excitement isn’t over when the wedding ends! The memories will last a lifetime and will be talked about among you and your husband/wife, family, and friends for years to come. You can relive your day whenever you want through the photos and videos that were taken to capture the moments. Not to mention there is always the honeymoon to look forward too!
Trust your vendors
You hired them for a reason! Hopefully it was because you felt a strong connection to them and their work and a relationship has formed between you throughout the planning process. As an example, on the day of my wedding I decided I wanted to change my hairstyle to something completely different from what had been done during my trial session. My fabulous stylist listened to what I was envisioning and executed it flawlessly. Trust the professional expertise of your vendors and let them do their thing!
Things may not go exactly as planned
It is quite possible that something may not go 100% according to plan. And that is ok! Knowing this in advance is important so you can prepare yourself to be flexible with any changes that may happen throughout the day. Allow the day to unfold naturally. If something does deviate from the original plan, it is important to again trust your vendors, especially if you have a planner or day of coordinator, and know they will manage the situation. At the end of the day you are getting married no matter what happens!
Admire the beauty
Take time to soak in all the beauty around you. The love in your soon-to-be husband or wife’s eyes. Smiles, laughter, tears from your family and friends. The fresh Up North air, pristine blue lake, green grass, and full trees. The lace on your dress, your veil, your sparkly shoes. The beautiful blooms that make up your bouquet. The escort cards, programs, and menus that you spent so much time working on. All of it has finally come together so try not to miss all the details of the full show while it is live!
You cannot control the weather!
We had an outdoor ceremony planned and I found myself obsessively checking the weather, even weeks before the day itself. It is extremely anxiety provoking to do this and, at the end of the day, mother nature is going to do whatever it is meant to do on your day. Let go of a layer of stress and give up trying to predict or control the uncontrollable! You can, however, purchase cute umbrellas ahead of time as a precautionary measure (wink).
Finally … Take care of yourself
Leading up to the wedding it is easy to get caught up in the endless to do lists and hustle and bustle of preparations. If it is important to you, schedule some self-care time so you can have a few moments to yourself and stay refreshed. I so badly wanted a massage during the week of but didn’t think I could “fit it in”. But I did. You can always fit in time to take care of you!
Alyssa was a Northern Michigan bride who married her husband, Adam, this past June in Elk Rapids, Michigan. She was born and raised in Chicago,Illinois, where she currently resides, but has deep connections up north. With a family history in the area dating over 60 years and a family lake home on Torch Lake, Alyssa has many Northern Michigan memories. Alyssa and Adam are so grateful to now have the memory of celebrating their wedding day with family and friends in a location that is near and dear to their hearts.